As I woke up this morning, I felt in a pretty good mood. I had this surge of motivation to be ok with myself. To let go of attachments to any other person or thing. I felt enough.
As the day progressed, I could feel the mental chatter in my head begin again to tell me that I am not worthy of love. I felt a surge of anxiety that I will be alone, with no one to love or to love me. I desperately wanted to make this thought go away. I don't want to feel this way again.
Life is constantly changing, and I am noticing that I am not as resilient as I use to be. As I see myself growing, I notice how uncomfortable I am feeling. If I lean in to allow myself to feel, maybe I will find healing.
I just want to feel better right now. I want to learn the lessons and find peace today. I am not honoring God's will or God's time. I am operating on Amanda's time. I think, "this feels yucky, and I want to feel happy".
I have never truly been alone....in 44 years I have always had someone to share space and entertain me. I don't know how to be by myself and find joy. It scares me. Debilitatingly scares me.
Tonight, I drug myself to the Celebrating Recovery meeting, practicing discipline to myself and my spiritual need to connect and to honor myself by showing up. As I sat in large group, I felt tears welling up. I sat there and planned how I could quietly sneak out the door before I cry. Heaven knows I don't want to cry in public. C'mon, not now God....
I made my way to small group and noticed how shallowly I was breathing. Barely taking any breath at all. As they opened up with prayer, I felt the tears pooling. C'mon God, not now, I thought. So, I opened my eyes and focused on my breath to choke the feeling back down.
As the ladies began to share, one of them mentioned the holiday's, and that was my breaking point. I couldn't stop the tears from coming, so I just allowed them. I ugly cried. It felt cleansing. I imagined I was anywhere but where I actually was and allowed the tears to flow.
No one handed me a tissue, per the group guidelines. See, there is a theory that handing someone a tissue stumps the feelings and tears from flowing. In some way it is a sign that the crying needs to stop. In this group, feelings are encouraged, so this would go against that purpose. I also resisted grabbing a tissue and just allowed myself to feel and process.
When it was my time to share, I found the courage to speak whatever came to my mind. I don't know if any of it made any sense, but I know that I felt a weight off my shoulders when I was done. It felt good to confess my struggles, and the negative feelings associated with being alone. It felt good to own my truth and to seek support to look up.
My real struggle is finding peace in the stillness, feeding my own needs through the holy spirit.
Phillipians 4:9 states that God will meet all of our needs...really? I don't feel like this is true. Or is it my perception of what I 'need' that is off.
- Need for approval from humans:- Seek the all knowing, perfect God
- Need for connection:- Seek the all knowing, perfect God
- Need for answers:- Seek the all knowing, perfect God
After listening to a video from Steven Furtick I notice the following points to meditate on.
God doesn't take the need away, he becomes the need.
When joy is low, entitlement is high
Being set free from what is expected, allows us to receive what we need.
Blessings:
I am capable of self awareness
I am worthy, just as I am
I am witty, and fun
I care so deeply
I have a natural ability to connect with kids
I have improved SO much in the past 4 years in my personal growth
I am a fighter
I love being a mother, friend and partner
I love learning
I am excelling at my job
I have good health
I am determined to build a life I love
I am capable of finding the silver lining
I can adapt to the changing seasons of life
I have a cute laugh
I have the most supportive and loving people in my circle
I have an abundance of family
My life is truly beautiful, I just need to open my eyes to it.