As January comes to an end I find myself feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, disappointed, and anxious over my inability to accurately communicate my feelings. I desired to write down what I’m noticing I’m feeling in this immediate space without judgement but open to learn. Each day I imagine the feelings and emotions may fluctuate as I process this event.
Yesterday morning I tried to share concern for my partner and I am feeling the very large and impactful negative consequence of that attempt. The feedback I received was that I lacked compassion and empathy. The message received was that I was concerned about the impact I was feeling…No regard for what he is going through. WOW! I am hurt and shocked to hear this. This is not at all what I was trying to express.
Now, I lay alone in my bed with a grandiose sense of uncertainty for my future. I am feeling overwhelmed with all of the unknowns and how unsettling my relationship feels. Maybe this is all for the greater good…
This is the motivation for my word choice of the year…
Was the breakdown in communication a result of my word choice…the receiver’s ability to accurately hear me…or both?
I am feeling rattled: this is how and when growth happens
I am feeling taken aback: I wasn’t expecting the conversation to end with the events that have taken place. This reminds me how little I really know.
I am feeling punished for sharing my heart: I leaned into my discomfort and I tried my best to communicate. I didn’t bottle up what I was feeling and that’s a HUGE growth. I can’t help my partner’s response. I may have felt similar to him if the roles were switched.
I am feeling abandoned: I am still here for me and no one knows me and my heart like I do. I haven’t left.
I am feeling tearful: I’m grateful I don’t feel numbed by this experience because that shows I care.
I am feeling afraid: I am human. This is hard. It’s ok to feel afraid. I will lean on my faith. God has never forsaken me. I know he’s working out something amazing for the future.
Rattled:
Worried or anxious
The events that have recently taken place have left me feeling rattled.
Taken aback:
To surprise or shock
I am taken aback that my words would be perceived as lacking compassion or empathy
Abandoned:
1. To leave without return
2. Left helpless without protection
I am feeling like my partner has abandoned me
I am feeling abandoned.
Tearful:
Showing signs that I have been or am about to cry.
I am feeling tearful when asked about how I’m feeling or the events taking place.
Afraid:
Emotional reaction to something that feels dangerous or threatening.
I am afraid of what the future entails after yesterday’s traumatic event.
Punished:
To suffer as a result of doing something wrong
I am feeling punished for sharing my heart.
When learning something new I know I may fall…a lot.
It’s not the falling that matters but the willingness to continue getting back up.